Pre-School Tantrums…Making Goodbyes Pleasant

Aug 19, 2014 by

Helping kids adjust to preschool, like Centenary Hill Pre-School, can be a testing task, especially if a child’s strategy is to throw tantrums. However, there is a lot you can do as a parent to ease the situation.

Arrive Early: Kids are smart. They will come up with all manner of delaying tactics when it is time to exit the car. Be sure to allocate sufficient time to answer questions about their imaginary friend and to adjust the suddenly uncomfortable shoe. Rushing makes the child anxious and will fuel more tantrums.

Make The Journey Happy: Play or sing her favorite song as you drive or walk to school, play a game and keep the child’s mood happy. A playful mood makes the child look forward to more play with other children, and they will probably be running off before you can say goodbye.  

Change Is Disastrous: If you drive your child to school, don’t attempt to take the bus before the child is comfortable enough. If you pick your child up early, do so consistently. Being late will make your child scared and make separation more difficult in the days that follow.

No Fanfares: When it’s time for the child to leave the car, keep your goodbye sweet and short. While lingering on for long feels like a more loving thing to do, it makes separation more difficult for your baby.

Customize Your Ritual: A “goodbye” ritual can be as easy as a special wave or a counting to ten then your child runs off to class. It makes separation easier since the child is already prepared for what is coming. A new practice can make the child panic.

Go Back To Pre-School: Ask the teacher if you can stay for at least one class. Sit at the back but at a spot where your child can see you. Avoid unnecessary interventions or doing anything disruptive. How long you stay depends with how soon your child feels safe with the teacher and other children.

Treat Extreme Separation Anxiety: If your best efforts have failed, and your child still suffers intense separation anxiety, seek medical attention. Excessive anxiety interferes with the child’s normal activities, such as friendships, and can be a sign of a larger problem.

No matter how long it takes for your baby to get comfortable with going to school, be proud of them. They love you and still feel safer with you. Plus everybody is anxious about change; they are not trying to punish you. Patience in this case is a big asset.

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